This book continues where The Heart and Soul of Sex leaves off. It invites you to understand the richness and complexity of what women want—beyond performance, beyond hormones, beyond the medical model that polarizes function and dysfunction, and beyond the cultural clichés that polarize men and women. Here, you’ll learn scores of ways to activate the four energies that spark sexual desire in your relationships, including the all-important relationship with yourself.

This book weaves together a story about sex that’s never been told before in quite this way—from the thousands who answered the ISIS survey on integrating sexuality and spirituality, and thousands more who have attended my lectures, workshops, and therapy sessions. Here you’ll learn the depth and breadth of our sexual responses—from what I call skin hunger to emotional flow to cosmic connection, Tantra, and more.

I originally wrote this book to address a curious paradox in our culture about women’s sexuality: While there is increasing encouragement for women to say “No” to abuse and violence, there is still no broad-based encouragement for us to say “Yes” to pleasure. Here you’ll find stories confirming what every woman knows instinctively about sexual pleasure, in a language that every woman will understand.